
I can’t remember being unable to tie a tie, and I don’t believe I started with the school one.
From birth, hats had gone, leaving only the tie and the suit or something slightly less formal to grow up beside.
My first tie, the one I had bought because I wanted it, was slim, knitted, dark blue and straight at the bottom. It was a nylon version of a silk style worn by beat groups. A little later, in Italy on a school trip, I bought two kipper ties, one pink, the other with bright vertical stripes of orange, red, green and brown.
I never bothered much with knots. I read in the Daily Express that Sean Connery as Bond used the Windsor knot. I first saw it on my sister’s boyfriend, now husband, when he came round to pick her up after tea on Saturday, always in a suit and with aftershave on. It was natural young fun when I succeeded in making the knot - though I never took to it.
Two or three other ties accompanied a Hepworth suit and one and a couple of jackets (and trousers) made by my father for mod dancing and for going out with in.
Then a big gap. Ties went, hair grew, before ties, much diminished as a possibility, came back for work. A favourite from that time was a narrow yellow knitted wool Jaeger, an early charity shop buy and an uncle of the first blue one.
If a new tie seemed necessary, I tended to look for something paisley. I bought a broader version of the first knit, the same fabric but in green and brown. This became my last tie for a long time.
Once in Japan, particularly on the train, I was struck by the multiplicity of ties. I soon realised the number of designs was infinite. Ties display well as part of their charm, and Japan, as for much else, was a prime source. Each year I bought a couple of choice examples, which I wore annually.
As the years passed I made a point of never wearing a tie at work, but that was essentially because I favoured buttoned-up shirts, especially if they had a pyjama collar. Being tieless also marked me out, in the manner of a batsman who’d made the decision about wearing a cap.
The ties lingered in various bedroom drawers. I would brush across them in search of something else, drawn by the fabric and design, but never a thought of wearing one, not even with irony. Elsewhere, ties were going out for the more regular wearer. The look was a suit with at least the top shirt button undone. I didn’t approve.
It became harder to get work as I aged, partly through diminished interest. Shortly after my most recent move I started to wear a tie when in the classroom. Choosing one for the day became an event and a mirthful backward glance, the turn of the other items in the drawer to be incidental.
Yesterday was a light grey and green Italian number from the late eighties. Despite my current interest, I doubt I’ll buy three more.
- NC Tate