The crape myrtles are in bloom: the signature flower of the movie Aruite mo, aruite mo (English title: Still Walking), which is about a family reunion over the August Obon holidays. This brilliant film is specifically Japanese, but resonates with our common humanity. This is some of what the film illustrates:
- the awkwardness of family reunions: The young don’t want them but they reel you in
- to stay over with one’s parents is an effort on both sides; an inconvenience for the young; a matter of pride--and work and expense--for the elders
- the difficulty of communicating across generations
- the need for politeness, care, and the smoothing of ruffled feathers, and how tiring that is
- how deeply our family can hurt us with a careless word
- the wonder of childhood and the children’s own world
- the food
- the idiosyncrasies of age: stuffing a refrigerator full of food to “feel safe”; saving enormous numbers of empty bags
- the self-absorption of the young, who are reluctant to put themselves out for their parents
- the later regret of the young for their self-absorption
- the family in-jokes and shared memories
- the passing on of heirlooms by parents sensing their impending demise
- the closing of smaller, local businesses… or their survival with a new generation
- the awareness of, and the indignities of ageing
- sibling rivalry
- the stubborn pride of the old and the young alike
We can’t celebrate a decade of Only A Blockhead without mentioning this movie, which has caught our notice multiple times over the years. David found it early; it’s common to be swept away by an experience (he called it “one of the best films I’ve ever seen”) only for it lose its luster later on, but he had called it accurately, still finding it “my favorite movie of the last decade or three” when years had past. NC Tate wrote about the food. We even had a long, considered guest review (by, I can now reveal, prize-winning author P.D. Walter), which drew thoughtful comments.
Aruite mo, aruite mo, with the children visiting their parents, is a contemporary take and mirror image and artistic equal of Ozu’s Tokyo Story in which the parents visit their children. As the crape myrtles bloom on roadsides and in gardens, I spend another Obon with the Yokoyama family.
--Julian
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